Last night I was really missing my dad.

Almost without thinking, I grabbed the remote and put on Star Trek—one of his favorite shows that has quietly become one of mine. Growing up, if it started with the word Star, we watched it: Star Trek, Star Wars, Stargate—you name it. Some of my best memories are sitting next to him, watching starships warp across galaxies or Jedi ignite their lightsabers.

My dad went home to be with the Lord three years ago, and I’ll be honest—at the time, it did not feel like part of any good plan. It felt like a door slammed shut. A story cut short. I couldn’t imagine how anything good could come out of that loss.

But sitting there last night, watching Captain Kirk on the screen, I was reminded of one of his lines:

“You know the greatest danger facing us is ourselves, and irrational fear of the unknown. But there’s no such thing as ‘the unknown,’ only things temporarily hidden, temporarily not understood.”

Those words hit differently now. Grief is full of “unknowns”—empty chairs, quiet rooms, birthdays without phone calls. For a long time, it felt like my dad’s absence was just a giant blank space. But slowly, God has been showing me that while I don’t understand everything, it’s not truly unknown to Him. It’s just “temporarily hidden, temporarily not understood.”

And don’t lose me here, because now I’m switching over to a Star Wars moment. When Obi-Wan was struck down, he became more powerful than anyone imagined—not because he stayed, but because his presence transcended what could be seen. In a strange, holy way, that’s what it’s felt like with my father. I sense his impact, his influence, his love more now than I did when he was on this side of eternity. It’s like God has taken the raw ache of loss and, over time, turned it into a deeper awareness of legacy, love, and heaven’s reality.

It’s strange, but it’s also beautiful—how God can turn loss into gain, sorrow into something sacred.

And that same mystery shows up not only in grief, but in the everyday twists and turns of life.


Life rarely goes the way we imagine it will. We map out our dreams, make vision boards, and pray for straight roads without bumps or detours. We picture the perfect timeline—when we’ll graduate, fall in love, start the family, land the promotion, or step into our calling.

But then, without warning, life shifts. Plans unravel. A once-open door suddenly slams shut. A relationship fades. An opportunity we were sure was meant for us disappears. Sometimes it’s a job. Sometimes it’s a move. And sometimes, like with my dad, it’s the kind of loss that rearranges your whole world.

In the silence that follows, we find ourselves asking, “Lord, what are You doing?”

If you’ve ever been there—staring at a closed door with tears in your eyes—you’re not alone. We’ve all faced seasons where our faith and our expectations collide. But what if those interruptions aren’t interruptions at all? What if they are invitations—holy moments where God is doing something deeper than we can see?

The Kindness in Closed Doors

It’s easy to view a closed door as rejection. But sometimes, it’s actually God’s kindness in disguise. What looks like delay might be divine redirection. What feels like disappointment might be preparation for something you’re not yet ready to carry.

Isaiah 55:8–9 reminds us, “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the Lord. “As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.”

God sees the entire landscape of our lives—the pitfalls we can’t see, the blessings waiting around the corner, and the growth required before we reach them. We see snapshots; He sees the story. When He closes a door, He’s not punishing us—He’s protecting us.

Disappointment or Divine Setup?

I can recall moments when I prayed earnestly for something I just knew had to be God’s will—a breakthrough, a job, a healing, a relationship—and the answer didn’t come. I felt heartbroken, even angry. Maybe you’ve been there too.

But years later, I could look back and see how every unanswered prayer became a doorway to something better than I could have imagined. What I once called a setback was actually a setup—a divine rerouting toward something greater.

Romans 8:28 assures us, “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose.”

Every “no” carries a hidden “yes” to something higher. God never wastes pain. He never misses timing. Even when you can’t see the reason, you can rest in the reality that His hand is still on your life.

The Freedom of Surrender

Letting go of control is one of faith’s hardest lessons. We crave certainty and comfort, but control is often an illusion that keeps us anxious and exhausted. Faith isn’t the absence of planning—it’s the surrender of the outcome.

Exodus 14:14 says, “The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.” Sometimes stillness is the strongest thing you can do. You don’t have to fix every situation, chase every opportunity, or understand every why. The peace you long for is found not in control but in surrender.

When you choose to trust God’s sovereignty, something shifts inside you. You stop striving to make things happen and start flowing with His grace. Think of a river—it doesn’t resist the bends or rocks in its path; it flows around them. Likewise, when we stop fighting God’s direction, His current carries us farther than our own efforts ever could.

The Purpose in the Detour

God’s “no” is never the end—it’s a reroute to His “yes.”

That job you didn’t get might have drained your spirit.
That relationship that ended might have distracted you from your destiny.
That delay you’re frustrated by might be the very pause preparing you for purpose.
Even that loss you can’t fully make sense of may be the place where God is quietly planting a deeper hope in eternity.

Proverbs 3:5–6 tells us, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight.”

Notice the word paths—plural. Your journey may twist and turn, but God’s direction is never random. Even detours have design. Every delay carries destiny. You may not see the straightness yet, but He’s already leveling the road ahead of you.

You Are Right Where You Need to Be

Friend, take a deep breath. You are not behind schedule. You are not forgotten. God hasn’t lost track of your story. He’s just editing it with wisdom and love.

Let go of the “should haves” and “what ifs.” Release the urge to force what’s not meant to be. You don’t need to reopen doors that God has already closed. The same hand that shut them will open new ones when the time is right.

Your life is not off course—it’s on purpose. You’re in the hands of the Author who never makes mistakes and never misses appointments. Every twist in your journey is leading to a chapter more beautiful than the one before.

So today, instead of asking “Why did this happen?”, try asking “What are You doing in me, Lord, through this?” That single shift in perspective can turn confusion into confidence and pain into peace.

The detour you’re walking through might just be the most direct route to the destiny God designed for you.

The Invitation of Trust

Trust is not passive resignation—it’s active faith. It’s choosing to believe that even when the outcome is unclear, the One leading you is good. Closed doors teach us dependence. Detours deepen our roots. Delays draw us closer to the heart of the Father.

And when grief hits—when you flip on an old show just to hear echoes of your dad’s laughter or remember the way he loved those “Star” stories—trust reminds you that this isn’t the end. In Christ, even death is a door, not a wall. Loss is real, but so is the hope of resurrection, reunion, and the God who holds both you and your loved one in His hands.

So lean in, not away. God is not done. The door that shut was never the end of your story—it was simply the beginning of a better one.

When we finally learn to rest in His timing, we discover that peace isn’t found in having everything go our way—it’s found in knowing that His way is always best.


Prayer:

Heavenly Father,
Thank You for being the God who sees beyond what I can understand. When doors close, when plans fall apart, and when grief feels heavy, remind me that You are still in control and still good. When I miss the ones I love and the ache feels overwhelming, draw near and steady my heart.

Help me to rest in Your wisdom instead of wrestling for my own way. Give me the courage to release what’s behind me and the faith to embrace what’s ahead. When I grow weary from waiting, whisper Your promises to my heart. When I feel lost in detours or swallowed by the unknown, remind me that nothing is unknown to You—it is only temporarily hidden, temporarily not understood.

Lord, I choose to trust that every “no,” every delay, and even every goodbye can become a doorway to a greater “yes” in Your perfect plan. Teach me to be still and know that You are God—faithful, kind, and near to the brokenhearted.

I surrender my expectations, my fears, my grief, and my timing into Your hands. Lead me by Your peace, fill me with Your presence, and strengthen my heart to follow You wherever You lead, until the day every tear is wiped away and every story makes sense in Your light.

In Jesus’ name, Amen.

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I’m Chaplain Jeff Davis

With God, all things are possible. I write to offer hope and encouragement to anyone walking through the in-between seasons of life. My prayer is that as you read these words—and see your own story reflected in them—you’ll be strengthened, reminded you’re not alone, and drawn closer to the One who makes all things new.

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